Being involved in the community also has the benefit of allowing you to vet a potential Domme.If she is involved in your local BDSM community, others will be able to give you a good idea if she is experienced and if she is a safe player.If you are dating a vanilla woman or someone new to kink and are not sure if they are interested in dominating you, the only way to find out is to ask.If you are nervous about asking directly you can always bring up your fetishes or kinks to try to get the conversation rolling.There are huge stereotypes about who a dominant woman should be: a business woman, assertive in all areas of life; someone who wears leather boots and a corset every day.If you are looking for the dominatrix on CSI, you are going to find yourself very disappointed.This is not necessarily the best or easiest way to find someone, but it does sometimes work.You can always try to find a Domme on Fet Life, but keep in mind that Fetlife is NOT a dating site. Kinksters see Fetlife as a Facebook where they can talk to fellow kinky friends and post pictures that are too pervy for Facebook.
But here's the thing: The world of dating dominant women is a seller's market. If you want to be an eligible submissive, you had better do your homework.
There are basically two places to look: online and in real life.
Many vanilla dating sites have a way to filter for kinky people.
A better way to use Fetlife is as a way to find groups and munches in your local area.
There are some groups on Fet Life that are made for people to post personal ads, but with the oodles of ads posted daily, you most likely are not going to get any results.