Dating in the church
Only God the Father can call anyone to salvation (John ). “We find instructions in the Old Testament in which God warned Israel not to marry people of other nations and cultures because they would likely lead them into idolatrous beliefs and practices.Exodus your God shall bring you into the land where you go to possess it, and has cast out many nations before you, the Hittites, and the Girgashites, and the Amorites, and the Canaanites, and the Perizzites, and the Hivites, and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and mightier than you; .
As human beings we desire relationships with others. “Dating is not only designed to ultimately ‘find someone’ to marry, but to develop our social and interpersonal skills in relating with others.” We know that not all dating leads to marriage, nor should it, but oftentimes it does, and that is a good thing.
Parents and teens, there’s a question that arises, usually at the early teen stage that we sometimes dread: “Dad, or Mom, is it okay to develop a steady relationship with or date someone who is not in agreement with our core set of values or beliefs?
” This question comes up at our United Youth Camps each year.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment until death, and a key element of mature understanding is to realize the importance of compatibility in many areas of life.
There are already tangible challenges in any relationship that are already in play from the outset—two unique individuals, two unique genders, two unique personality types, and two unique sets of family ways—all of which will take the course of a lifetime to meld into a bonded marital unit.